OK, I admit it:over the years, I have enjoyed watching and discussing episodes of both The Bachelor and The Bachelorette with my sister. Rachel Lindsay appeared on both shows, first as a candidate for perennial character Nick Viall (what is up with him returning over and over?) and subsequently as the first Black Bachelorette, where she ended up finding and marrying her husband. I watched both seasons, and thought she was an amazing woman.

In Miss Me With That, Rachel shares an amazing amount of detail about both her experiences on the shows and her “real life,” beginning with her privileged childhood as the daughter of a federal judge  in Dallas, on through college and law school, to a successful career as an attorney, which she left when she realized she wasn’t happy in a legal career.

Rachel shares an incredible amount of information about her love life, education, sex life, and political views,  as well as some juicy details about her stints as a reality TV star. She became VERY well known when she spoke out about the lack of diversity on the hit TV shows, and has always spoken her mind, becoming a respected woman willing to share her strong opinions (as well as her vulnerabilities). 

Will be enjoyed by those familiar with The Bachelor/Bachelorette, but also by anyone who appreciates essays by a perceptive observer and participant in the quest for social justice and an outspoken advocate for the Black Lives Matter movement. I came away happy for her: As she puts it, ““The Bachelor gave me an opportunity, but I created my own happy ending.””

 Four enthusiastic stars. Much better than I expected, and thanks to Random House/Ballantine and NetGalley for providing a copy in exchange for this honest review.